If you've been asked to write a eulogy for a loved one, you're probably wondering where to start! You'd have a million thoughts running through your mind and want to capture them before they disappear again.
As funeral directors, we're here to help you write your eulogy and help you through this important process of planning a funeral.
Here are our top tips on how to write a memorable eulogy.
A eulogy is a 'speech' that is given at a funeral. It usually shares some insight into the deceased person's life and should be seen as a celebration of their life.
Eulogys cover a wide range of topics like their life story (from the early years to the present), life achievements, and how they touched the lives of others, and often share a funny story or two.
They are usually read out by a family member, close friend or the celebrant/clergyman who is officiating the service.
You may have more than one person read a eulogy at a funeral, or one may be shared amongst a few people where there are multiple children who'd all like to say a few words.
Just know a eulogy comes from your heart, and there is no right or wrong way to write a eulogy for your loved one.
If you've been asked to write the eulogy, your brain is probably being flooded with so many thoughts and memories.
The best thing to do is grab a notepad and scribble down your ideas as you get them.
Ask your family and friends to come over and talk about your loved one's life. As you talk, you'll find you get more ideas or have stand-out stories which everyone remembers fondly. A eulogy can be a communal speech with input from all the important people in your loved one's life. It's important that everyone feels they have the chance to reflect (and celebrate) the life of the deceased.
It's these types of moments that you need to capture for your eulogy.
How do you sum up a person's life in a short amount of time? It's tough!
Here's a list of things to start with to help your ideas to start flowing:
You'll either have stories of your own, or your family members and close friends may bring up stories they remember.
You'll find special stories can come from a range of places:
It's your combined memories that will help you write a memorable eulogy.
Here are some more handy tips to write your eulogy:
And remember, it's up to you how you write it. Humour is totally acceptable (mostly) and people usually appreciate hearing funny stories about their loved ones as they remember (and celebrate) the good times they've had.
It's no secret that public speaking can be scary! Unless you're a trained speaker, do it for your job or are confident about talking in front of groups of people, you may be worried about delivering the eulogy.
But remember - everyone who is at the funeral is there to love and support you and your family during this time. The stories about your loved one and the meaning behind your eulogy are what matters the most.
Here are some eulogy delivery tips:
Your loved ones will appreciate that you've had the courage to stand up and deliver the eulogy.
And as funeral directors, we like to think that the deceased person watches on to hear the final words said about them!
When we help with arranging a funeral, our funeral directors are on hand to help you with anything you need. If you need them to look over your eulogy or help you pull it all together, please ask. We're here for you, and we totally understand the pressure people often feel when it comes to writing a eulogy. Chat with us!