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How to Write a Eulogy

The eulogy is the life story and celebration of the deceased person. It may cover a wide range of topics, but generally includes their early life through to current times, life achievements and ways in which they have touched the lives of others.

It may be delivered by a chosen family member or friend, Clergyperson or Celebrant and is often lovely when shared between a number of people. These tips may help you learn how to write a eulogy.

Writing and delivering the Eulogy is an important task and can mean a great deal to grief stricken family and friends.

Engage the support of others/family as you compile the eulogy. This can indeed be a special time for friends and family members, as they reflect on the life of their loved one.

Where to start:
The hardest thing is how do you sum up a lifetime in a short period of time. You will be surprised in how once you start it will all flow.
The persons history in chronological order:

Full name/nicknames
Birthdate
Place of birth
Parents and siblings
Childhood days
Education
Jobs/career
Relationships/marriage
Children/grandchildren
Places lived
Achievements
Hobbies or special interests
Notable likes and dislikes
What did you love and admire about the person?
What will you miss the most?
What did they do that made you smile?

Significant stories:
Are there any significant stories that may capture your loved one’s character? Family and friends may also be able to assist with meaningful contributions.

Helpful tips:
Write as though you are talking to a group of friends and have a chosen trusted person check over your draft and completed eulogy.
Print the eulogy in an easy to read format.

Use humour where appropriate. Family and friends usually appreciate hearing funny stories about their loved one and this greatly contributes to the celebration of their life.

You may want to consider using a meaningful quote to open or close your speech. Or words from poetry, songs or others speeches may assist you.

Delivering the Eulogy:
There is no mistaking public speaking can be frightening but remember that your listeners are in attendance in an atmosphere of love and support. Your story of the deceased person and the meaning behind it will be what matters the most.

Take the time to practice beforehand
Arrange for another person to assist in speaking in the event it becomes too difficult for you
Try to relax and imagine you are speaking to friends
Do your best to project your voice and speak clearly
It’s OK to pause and collect your thoughts. Your listeners will appreciate your efforts and understand.